Massive Teaching Fail
WARNING: Brief sexual content. Rated PG-13.
I’m extremely disturbed by a thread over at fMh. A single 30-year-old woman named “Am” wrote in, agonizing over the fact that she recently experienced an inadvertent orgasm while exercising. Dear fMh, do I need to see the bishop for this? she asks.
I’m sorry. But what the hell?
First of all, if it were me, I’d be like, “Yessssss! Freebie!” 😉
But beyond my initial tongue-in-cheek reaction, I’ve got to say…my heart broke for her.
The idea that a grown woman should wonder if she has to drag herself to the bishop’s office to confess something so personal (not to mention trivial!) in order to gain a sense of “absolution” is nothing short of tragic. I’m actually sitting here with tears in my eyes because I think it reflects so poorly on our faith community that she feels the need to ask this question at all!
In a later comment, “Am” explains why the question is so important to her:
“It is crystal clear to me that my confidence in prayer is directly proportional to the extent of my obedience to His commandmants. I want to be able to kneel before him knowing that I qualify for every blessing that He has for me; that I deserve what I am asking for in prayer.”
Can I just ask…how does this happen?
How do people get to be 30 years old and honestly think they have to “earn” what they get? Or that a loving God will withhold needed blessings if you struggle with a commandment or a private weakness? Or that somehow you can’t approach the mercy seat of Christ and lay your sins at His feet until you’ve mastered them? That you can only go to Him with confidence once you’re “worthy”?
How can such an obviously earnest, active member of the church MISunderstand the gospel so completely?
There is only one explanation:
Massive. Teaching. Fail.
FAIL, Mormons! Fail!
When it comes to teaching the gospel of Christ–and by that I mean the message of hope and grace in Him who was crucified for the sins of all mankind–we pretty much suck.
I know, I know, I blog about this all the time. And I’m sorry if you’re bored already. But there are times this actually keeps me up at night, as I worry about family, friends, and ward members who may be suffering needlessly from a mistaken understanding of how salvation works and what grace really means.
I often wonder what we can do as members of the church to help people find peace and hope in Christ. Does anyone have any ideas on how we can prevent this kind of thing from happening?
Posted on June 23, 2009, in Mental Health, Mormonism, Thoughts on God and tagged atonement, Christ, christian, confession, grace, guilt, help, Mormonism, salvation, sexuality, teaching fail, works. Bookmark the permalink. 34 Comments.